Signs of Domestic Abuse (The Abused Woman/The Abusive Man)
The abused woman:
- Shows guilt, ambivalence, and fear over living conditions.
- Feels isolated and untrusting of others, even though she may be involved in the community.
- Is emotionally and economically dependent.
- Has a poor self-concept (this may not have been true BEFORE the relationship).
- Has observed other women in her family being abused or may have been abused as a child.
- Feels angry, embarrassed, and ashamed.
- Is fearful of being insane.
- Has learned to feel helpless and feels powerless.
- Has unexplained injuries that may go untreated.
The abusive man:
- Shows extreme jealousy and wants to keep the woman isolated.
- Shows an inability to cope with stress and demonstrates a lack of impulse control. (This may not necessarily appear outside the home)
- Has a poor self-image and blames others for problems.
- Shows severe mood swings.
- May have a history of abuse in his own family and may have been abusive in courtship.
- Presents a history of personal and/or family discord; abuse of alcohol or other substances, unemployment, cruelty to animals, and other unexplained behavior.
* From the Women’s Rural Advocacy Programs. WRAP is a collective of five offices serving five counties in southwestern Minnesota.